By Geoffrey Muhoozi
Love, marriage and learning how to drive are things that have refused to mix over time. It is strange but true that a man can never teach their spouse how to drive and the reverse is true.
You may say NO to my finding but this has proved more than true. Some ladies have told their friends that the best person to choose for a driving instructor should never be a spouse or someone who you are or may get interested in or sexually attracted to because Love and driving do not mix and when they do so the result is always kind of disastrous.
One thing for sure is that driving needs a lot of patience but whoever is instructing should at times be hard on the learner and that is where the learner tends to lose it and the two almost come to blows.
Learners especially women want to be handled with kid gloves when learning to drive but tend to take things for granted and with that kind of treatment with kid gloves, they may take forever to get onto the road by themselves. They tend to insist not being shouted at as they are being instructed but however much you are soft and patient but keep saying the same thing over and over again to an adult, you will eventually lose it and outburst.
Driving calls for concentration, patience, thinking fast and being able to act almost spontaneously which many people lack. That eventually leads to bickering about what to tell certain people to do while they take their driving lessons.
One thing people have failed to understand is that the way a trained driving instructor will handle a learner is not the way a spouse will handle a wife/ girlfriend during lessons. The level of closeness is different even given the fact that the driving instructor is doing his job and is being paid for it while your spouse is just helping you to acquire that very important skill that could save a life.
When it comes to what not to do when taking lessons with a helper of the opposite sex, the first rule should always be to always fight the temptation of getting sexually attracted to them because that may mark the end of the helping with the driving. It may sound false or even far fetched but many people especially women will agree with me.
Second rule; if he is already your lover, forget about the bedroom matters and be submissive by listening to what he tells you to do however rude he may sound. He may sound rude but he is doing it for your own good and saving you lots of money that would have gone to the driving school instructors. For an hour or two act the fool and believe me, you will learn to drive.
I know you can find love in the strangest of places, teaching how to drive being one of them but, for both the instructor and the learner, if you can avoid falling of reach other in the course of the lessons and wait till the learner is through with the learning, has passed their test and acquired a drivers’ licence then you can take it from there.
That would be a perfect way to have met and would be memorable and always cherished rather than stopping the lessons, falling into love, breaking up later only for the former learner to regret having met you and allowed you to instruct them and later shatter their dream of learning to drive in the name of love.
For those who have met their spouses through teaching how to drive and these ladies haven’t mastered the art yet, put the love aside for a while and teach them how to drive. I know it may be so heard given all that comes with Love and driving but helping this lady how to drive is the best skill you can ever give her and she will always cherish you for that.
- Geoffrey T. Muhoozi is a Ugandan trained Public Relations Practitioner and Journalist. He Studied at Makerere University Kampala and read Mass Communication with a bias in Public Relations. In between the course, he studied the Art of Public Speaking. He joined Uganda’s Leading Daily, The New Vision during his second year and practiced journalism till he left for The United Kingdom.In the UK, he persued an NCC International Diploma in Computing at London College of Business Studies and Computing. He went on to do a Masters Degree in Business Administration [MBA]specialsing in Marketing. In spite of being in The United Kingdom, he still contributes for The New Vision and The Sunday Vision newspapers when time allows.